I have two posts battering around in my skull that really aren't meant to be offensive.
But every time I try to write out what I am trying to say...
Three edits later and I have it toned down to racist misogynism.
That's not at all what I am meaning, but it sure is how it's reading.
I'll keep trying. There's got to be a way to phrase this thought that doesn't come out wrong.
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Willing to take a crack at being your editor or at least a sounding board to bounce better phrasings around.
ReplyDeleteBob S.
Thanks for the offer, but it's a process I do. Fucking nuts -> Nuts -> Crazy -> Slanderous -> Offensive -> Posted.
DeleteIt's really the competing posts than being actually stuck. Superficial similarities are trying to make them one post while the differences mean they have to be two.
I think I'm on track for one for sure in as least as offensive as I can make it.
It's pretty common. I don't know how many times I've sat on a post overnight and read it again in the morning before posting it.
ReplyDeleteThe thing is, you've got to walk a razor line to stay interesting. Staying too safe in your opinions means that your opinions will be boring, and then, why blog?
The art is figuring out a way to get your point across without slipping too far to the a-hole side of things.
And so I apply a test. I try to imagine myself giving advice to a friend or to my daughter, and imagine how I would portray my opinion to them if I had to.
Having the benefit of seeing what you're talking about now that you've posted the posts, I can tell you that when i did my Bill Cosby post about date rape, and the responsibility of women to avoid such situations, I phrased it in the way that I would if i were giving this advice to my daughter - not accusatory, not condmening anything, just putting it out there as common sense.
Rapists gonna rape. You can't stop that. So you really need to watch out for them. This isn't victim blaming. it's common sense.